The sculpture pictured above is called “Love” (by Alexander Milov), and was featured at the Burning Man festival in 2015. I was awestruck from the moment I saw it. This sculpture seems to so clearly illustrate how our adult selves live trapped in anxiety, sadness, anger and disconnection, while our child selves continue to reach out to connect, give and receive love.
The task of therapy is to face (work through) your fear, sadness, anger and shame – all of which wasn’t there when we came into this world, before ‘life happened’ to you – so it can finally break its hold on you.
The goal of our therapy will be to restore you to that ‘self’ you were before life got hold of you and shook you till your teeth rattled. If life was brutal to you in childhood, we’ll figure out how to deal with the scars of those experiences and design how your adulthood will play out, according to your plan.
If that sounds easy, I’ve misled you! Therapy isn’t for sissies. It requires facing feelings that may have been shut off, set aside, or pushed down for decades – and they often feel absolutely horrible as they surface. The alternative is to leave things as they are, and hope for things to change on their own (also known as ‘magical thinking’).
Men – special attention! Your issues are too often set aside as our world sends you the mixed messages of “we want you to show your emotions” and then shrink away when you show your tender side (be a ‘man’, be ‘tough’!). You need a place to work through what has happened to you over the years too. Yes, this is also hard work – and so worth it.
Call me when you’re ready, and we’ll see if we’re a good fit.