Couples Therapy

The Work of Couples Therapy

Maintaining a healthy relationship is incredibly difficult. But you’re not here to maintain a healthy relationship are you? Something has gone terribly wrong, and you’re trying to repair a relationship that has become broken or bent horribly out of shape.

Let’s be honest, therapy won’t fix your relationship if the damage is too extensive and/or if one partner has already made the decision to leave. However, if each of you are committed to ‘owning’ what you have done to damage the relationship – and are willing to do the work to repair and make lasting changes – you have a good chance of saving your relationship.

Too often, couples come to therapy with a hidden agenda. They each want to ‘fix’ the other one. That never works. You co-created the relationship AND all of its problems, so it will take both of you to fix it.

John Gottman, truly one of the experts in the field of relationships, says couples endure an average of 6 years of a painful relationship before seeking therapy. That’s a long time for sore feelings to fester and for someone to lose hope. Do your relationship a favor, and take action sooner rather than later.

When you’re both ready, and committed to doing the work, call or email me.