No two people are alike. We are who we are as a result of where we grew up, who raised us, our culture, our physiology, and many other things. You and I may be very different, but your differences will be respected, and your experiences will be honored and remain confidential within our therapeutic relationship.
You will determine your goals – I will help you figure out how to reach them. I’m not in the business of telling you how you should live your life, but if I see you making choices that are sabotaging your stated goals I will let you know.
I consider our session to be a time when I am sequestered from the world, focusing 100% on you. No incoming notifications to distract me.
Today you are a different person than you were 10 years ago – or even last year! Your decisions therefore, will be different because of what you have learned and how you have grown.
How many times have you said “If I’d known then what I know now…”? I can nearly guarantee that in 10 years you will look back and say the same thing!
You have done – and are doing – the best you can with what you have in this moment. You are learning as you go … developing a new way to understand the world and yourself. You are continually adding new skills/tools to your toolbox.
Rather than spending time judging your earlier self harshly, make a commitment to intentionally create a better life through better choices. Rather than letting life happen to you, design and create the life you want. USE the hard-won knowledge you’ve collected along the way to create a better life for yourself and those around you.
Will it be hard? Probably. No, definitely. Or you can continue to do what you’ve been doing. Hmmmm.